Excellent leadership and team building spring from healthy self-esteem. I'm not talking about things that are commonly mistaken for positive self-esteem (like ego, power, dominance, bravado and bluster) but the deeper confidence that comes from inner peace.
If you've ever been in a workplace where the leader is a healthy, balanced person who feels great about herself then you've likely experienced the positive effects of self-esteem including:
- Easier to talk with.
- Fewer power trips.
- Less confrontation and conflict.
- Reaches out to others and looks for ways to collaborate.
- Supports other people.
- Fewer perceived slights.
- Not as many turf battles.
- Treats others well and creates a kind workplace.
The reason self-esteem is linked with leadership and team building is that, when leaders genuinely feel good about themselves, they tend to behave in more positive ways and create happier workplaces. They have less of a need to stomp on others because they feel good about themselves. They treat people with kindness and compassion because they don't have scores to settle. They aren't threatened by others. Their ego or negative behaviors don't cloud the workplace. The result is a workplace where the leader looks for ways to help people grow, collaborate and succeed.
Building your self-esteem is a lifelong and ongoing process. There are no set rules on how you should feel on any given day but there are some things that can help you build a sense of well-being. The great thing about self-esteem is that you can increase it at any through conscious action. Here are some ideas to help you get started.
- Do things you love at work.
- Celebrate your successes.
- Focus on the positive.
- Associate with people who behave positively.
- Pay attention to your inner voice.
- Keep moving forward even when it seems difficult.
- Take small steps and keep moving.
- Develop goals and a plan for achieving them.
- Do supportive things for yourself that don't cost money.
- Look in the mirror and say positive things to yourself.
- Practice positive behaviors.
- Help others succeed.
- Be compassionate and empathic.
Building self-esteem is a process that helps you treat yourself well and do the same for others. It doesn't occur all at once but you can practice it every day until it becomes second nature. There will always be negative things that come along at work but, if you're actively increasing your self-esteem, you'll find that you can deal with any challenge.
As you become healthier and more balanced so too will your workplace. You'll enjoy the results and so will your employees. What will you do to promote self-esteem in your workplace?