The Self-Awareness Guy

Leaders and Their Egos

Many leaders run their workplaces with wounded egos and it deeply affects the way their organizations function.  Your ego is your inner perception of the outside world.  This means that you can experience the world based both on your most noble and healthy impulses or most toxic and disabling.

If your perception is positive and you practice self-awareness, you'll tend to view your role in the world as interconnected with others and you'll interact in a healthy way.  You'll base your decisions on the security you feel about yourself and your sense of balance and well-being.  If you function more on the negative side of the spectrum you'll tend to view the world based on your fears and feelings of insecurity.  You might rely on mistaken notions of power, trying to control others, need for attention, desire to dominate or yearning for recognition.

The challenge for conscious leaders arises in that ego can reflect their most dysfunctional characteristics and they can get stuck listening only to that inner voice.  If you only listen to the voice that reminds you of your insecurities or hurts then your leadership moves in a certain direction.  Answer the following questions to get a feel for how your ego is working for you.

1.  In what ways am I constantly working on being the best person I can be?

2.  I what ways do I get my stuff on other people?

3.  In what ways do I depend on others to make me happy?

4.  In what ways do I help others grow and succeed?

5.  What is my view of competition?

6.  What is my view of winning and losing?

As you answer these questions you will likely see a pattern emerging that will show you how balanced your ego is.  Remember that your ego is healthy when you're so confident and secure that you live a great life and help others to do the same.  You don't feel threatened by others and you enjoy their success as much as yours.

A healthy ego will tend to stay in balance, allowing you to behave with calmness and kindness.  For those of you who already lead this way, you know the deep happiness that comes from self-awareness and helping others discover how wonderful they are.  You get to be you at your finest and most balanced.  What advice would you give leaders about ego?