It’s really normal to get stuck in a pattern, even if it’s negative. We become accustomed to the pattern to the point where it becomes normal. We take it for granted and just live with it.
For many people the key to getting unstuck is to do something differently. If we have had a certain kind of results in a relationship, doing something different has the inevitable result of changing the situation. But there is one caveat, you have to do it consistently over time until the new behavior takes root.
Try taking some part of your life and consciously doing something differently. Do it over time until it becomes your new “normal.” Lather, rinse and repeat. This approach can be applied to any number of issues. Keep it simple and do one at a time.