The Self-Awareness Guy

Emotional Intelligence and Self-Awareness

The Emptiness of Power and Control

The Emptiness of Power and Control


There is an emptiness to power and control that many people in positions of affluence and influence experience when they increase their self-awareness and realize it doesn't matter how much they dominate others when they themselves don't feel balanced and happy inside.

A lot of people seek power and control even though it doesn't provide them with deep, abiding fulfillment. Sure, it can produce temporary, superficial gratification, but that doesn't feed the need for meaning. The only way to be truly happy in life is to have inner power and control by healing one's hurts and being as healthy as possible toward oneself and others.

A lot of people think having power and control means subjugating or dominating others; qualities that are dramatically different from inner peace and balance. The key to living a genuinely happy life is to be so self-aware that it radiates outward and helps others grow and succeed. What do you think about power and control?

Cheers,
Guy

The Peace of Mind of Self-Awareness

The Peace of Mind of Self-Awareness

Self-awareness can bring you amazing peace of mind if you let it. The challenge is being able to let go of all the noise and obstacles that get in the way of learning about yourself and living authentically. A lot of people struggle with the idea that there is a different way of living where they get to be themselves and enjoy the results they get from thinking, feeling and acting naturally.

You can start increasing your peace of mind and self-awareness by taking time each day to think about your strengths and areas for improvement. Celebrate the wonderful things about you and also work on one thing you'd like to improve. Repeat the process and, along the way, you'll discover more and more about your amazing gifts. What will you do to increase your self-awareness?

Cheers,

Guy

5 Ways to Be Non-Mainstream

5 Ways to Be Non-Mainstream

I'm not a mainstream type of person. I tend to like things that are different, quirky, silly, offbeat, emotionally complex, and that elicit deeper thought. I could care less about rules, fitting in, or society's expectations of me. I live in a place in the universe where I'm immersed in feelings and an exciting swirl of creativity. I'm constantly and continually building my self-awareness.

Too often, we're told that we should toe the line, follow the rules, not stick out, and many other types of soul-crushing suggestions. In my experience, these recommendations only lead to misery and self-loathing. People are profoundly unhappy when they can't express who they really are. The antidote is to follow your inner voice and live courageously and joyfully as the real you. Here are five ways to be non-mainstream:

  1. Identify what you really want to do in life and do it each day.
  2. Don't pay attention to what others say, follow your own inner voice.
  3. Have confidence in your abilities.
  4. Embrace the things that are different and unique about you.
  5. Have the courage to live as the real you.

Life is much richer when there's variety and eccentricity mixed into it instead of everyone being the same. What do you do to avoid being mainstream and enjoy being yourself?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness in Leadership Development

Self-Awareness in Leadership Development

I've worked with a wide range of leaders in variety of public and private companies and organizations and I frequently get questions about the role of self-awareness in leadership development. I usually answer by saying that there is no such thing as effective leadership without self-awareness. Let's look at some differences between a leader with self-awareness and one who doesn't possess it:

Leader without Self Awareness

Reacts to everything, gets scared often, behaves in a domineering way, corrects employee behavior through punishment, rules through fear, creates chaos in the workplace, promotes high turnover, not emotionally intelligent.

Leader with Self-Awareness

Thinks and behaves proactively, shifts fear into courage, motivates people from within, praises positive behaviors, rules through trust and collaboration, creates a calm work environment, builds a workplace people want to stay at, is highly emotionally intelligent.

The strange thing I've noticed is that virtually every single workplace is like the first example rather than the second because we've become accustomed to leadership without self-awareness. It doesn't have to be that way. When I work with leaders, we look at ways to develop their self-awareness skills, things like:

  • Understanding how their emotions, behaviors, and actions affect them, others, and the workplace.
  • Recognizing their strengths and areas for improvement.
  • Being able to ask for help.
  • Being comfortable with employees' emotions.
  • Building teams and promoting collaboration.
  • Communicating effectively, listening actively.
  • Helping people motivate themselves instead of having orders shouted at them.
  • Behaving calmly instead of in constant emergency mode.
  • Behaving with kindness and empathy.
  • Building a highly productive workplace based on trust rather than fear.
  • Avoiding micromanaging.
  • Healing their own inner hurts instead of getting their stuff on employees.

The key to extraordinary leadership development is to build leaders who are self-aware and do things differently than how most of our workplaces have done them since the beginning of the industrial revolution. We now have the knowledge to create healthy, collaborative workplaces where people get a lot done and do it with a sense of fulfillment and joy instead of coercion and fear. All it takes is deciding to educate your leaders in how to be self-aware, everything else flows from that initial enlightenment.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Seeing the Big Picture

Self-Awareness and Seeing the Big Picture

A lot of people think that working on their self-awareness is a selfish pursuit but they may be missing the point. When you deeply understand why you think or act the way you do, you move from being someone who lives unconsciously to someone who understands the implications surrounding their thoughts and behaviors. For example: If you get mad at friends or family all the time, you're behaving in a way that is specific and limited, whereas if you take the time to think about what you're doing and how you can move in a positive direction, you increase your ability to see things from a wider perspective.

You can choose to live life based only on what you think, feel and do in the moment but you'll be much happier and fulfilled if you pause and think about all the other options available to you. What will you do to use your self-awareness to see the big picture?

Take care

Guy