The Self-Awareness Guy

Personal Development and Self-Awareness

Self-Awareness Means Understanding How Other People See You

Self-Awareness Means Understanding How Other People See You


A major part of self-awareness is understanding how other people see you. This means that you clearly comprehend how your thoughts and actions affect not only you but others as well. When you understand the impact you have on others you can make the appropriate changes so that you get better results. The key is to be yourself and allow others to do the same. Here are some signs that you possess the self-awareness necessary to understand how other people see you:

  • You're not constantly in the middle of conflicts.
  • Other people seem to like you.
  • You build positive relationships.
  • You behave with kindness, empathy, and compassion.
  • You don't do things to hurt others.
  • You don't care about competition.
  • You don't have a massive, unhealthy, out of control ego.
  • You do things that benefit others.
  • You behave selflessly, without expecting something in return.

Cheers,

Guy

Joy in Life

Joy in Life

When I coach people they often tell me they have difficulty experiencing joy in their lives. Joy is a wonderful concept which I define as experiencing pure bliss and contentment. Joy is also complex in that we could not experience it if we did not also experience pain. A life of perpetual joy would soon begin to feel bland, so we need the ups and downs that come with everyday experience.

How do you define joy? Joy can be that moment at which you feel complete happiness and want for nothing else. It can be gazing into someone’s eyes whom you love or doing something that means a lot to you. Joy is what we experience when we work through difficulties and as we let go of the things that bring us down. Here’s what some smart people have to say about the matter:

Pearl S. Buck:

The secret of joy in work is contained in one word – excellence. To know how to do something well is to enjoy it.

Audre Lorde:

The sharing of joy, whether physical, emotional, psychic, or intellectual, forms a bridge between the sharers which can be the basis for understanding much of what is not shared between them, and lessens the threat of their difference.

Kahlil Gibran:

The deeper that sorrow carves into your being the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?

Cheers,

Guy

5 Tips to Feel Better about Yourself

5 Tips to Feel Better about Yourself

Sometimes event the most confident people in the world don’t feel amazingly great about themselves. We all have days when we think we don’t measure up to some ideal, some people stay stuck in this state for long periods. The good news is that you can do some practical things to feel better about yourself immediately.

Think about the following five questions and how they apply to your life and you’ll be on your way to feeling better about yourself.

1.  Do you do things you love?

2.  Do you fill your mind with negative messages about yourself?

3.  Do you have positive messages to replace the negative ones?

4.  What actions do you take to feel better and do positive things?

5.  How will you know that you feel better about yourself?

Think about these concepts for a while. Your answers will help you find ways to feel better about yourself. So much of life (and your self-esteem) is about the messages you put in your brain. If you stuff yourself with junk you will likely not feel so great, if you fill your mind with ideas that build you up the results are much more positive. Either way, you have a choice which path you decide to stay on. How will you start feeling better about yourself?

Cheers,

Guy

Can Things Make You Happy?

Can Things Make You Happy?

I frequently coach people who genuinely believe that buying things will make them happy. Time after time they realize that buying stuff really doesn’t affect their long term happiness. Sure, there is a buzz that comes from buying something you like but it doesn’t resolve the underlying things that are vital to fulfillment. This doesn’t mean that you can’t be happy buying things, it just requires that you put some thought into why you buy stuff. If you buy objects with the hopes of feeling better about yourself, I have some basic questions you can ask yourself to help you focus on what’s really going on.

1. Do I really need this object?
2. How am I focusing on fixing the deeper issues in my life?
3. Do I feel less whole when I can’t shop?
4. In what ways does buying things affect my emotions?
5. Does shopping help me postpone feeling emotions?
6. Do I hide the fact that I buy stuff from others?
7. Do I have to buy other stuff to keep the buzz going?
8. In what other areas of my life could I devote more energy and thought?
9. Could my money be used for long-term success?
10. How am I defined by my things?

The answers to these questions will help you get some perspective on how your buying habits affect your life. There’s nothing wrong or horrible with buying nice things unless it prevents you from looking at the deeper stuff in life.

Cheers,

Guy