The Self-Awareness Guy

Personal Development and Self-Awareness

It’s OK to Say No

It’s OK to Say No


An important part of self-awareness is allowing yourself not to do everything that people ask you to do. A lot of well-meaning individuals expend a great deal of energy doing things for others rather than remaining focused on their own goals. You get to decide whether you live your own life or someone else's. Saying no doesn't mean being rude, it's just letting people know what your limits and boundaries are.

Cheers,

Guy

15 Benefits of Developing Self-Awareness

15 Benefits of Developing Self-Awareness

Here are fifteen benefits of developing self-awareness:

  1. You heal the hurts from your past.
  2. You're in touch with your emotions, are able to feel them, and can use them to move in a positive direction. You're also comfortable with other people's emotions.
  3. You understand your strengths and areas for improvement.
  4. You treat yourself and others with kindness, empathy, and compassion.
  5. You do things to make the world a better place.
  6. You focus on the deeper things in life rather than living superficially.
  7. You get to know the real you and live your life accordingly.
  8. You let go of the need for power and control and focus instead on being the best person you can be without dominating others or having to win.
  9. People like you at home and at work.
  10. You don't have the constant internal conflict of saying one thing and doing another.
  11. You're generally happy and balanced, even in difficult situations.
  12. You understand why you feel, think, and do things.
  13. You learn and grow each day.
  14. You become a nice person.
  15. You enjoy life.

When you develop self-awareness you have a wonderful opportunity to move beyond all the garbage that creates conflict, chaos, confusion, and misery in your life and focus instead on living a kind, joyful, deeply introspective and fulfilling existence. When you're fully self-aware, you no longer live day to day, reacting to everything, you get to be the real you and do what you really love in life.

Cheers,

Guy

Be Kind to Yourself

Be Kind to Yourself

People are frequently quite hard on themselves and are constantly concerned about how well they are doing things. I help people learn how to be kind with themselves. Try these ideas today to be kind with yourself.

1. Praise yourself for something you did today.
2. Do something positive that you enjoy.
3. Repeat every day.

Getting in the habit of doing these simple things can feel different at first but, over time, it leads to us doing things that make us feel good. It’s great when we can rely on ourselves rather than others to make us feel good.

Next time you feel completely stressed out and about to explode, take a moment and try these steps instead of being hard on yourself. We are all amazing creatures that need caring and affection and who better to start that process than ourselves?

Cheers,

Guy

When You Have No Hope

When You Have No Hope

Many of us reach points in our lives where we feel like nothing is going right. I ask people to focus on the things that are going right. It may sound simplistic but much of how we see the world is based on perspective.

Why is it that one person sees an event as a tragedy while another sees it simply as a bump in the road? Perspective. Why is it that one person crumbles when faced with adversity but others thrive? Perspective.

When you give up hope you give up believing that you can affect the world around you. This is only a perception because, in fact, you can always do something to move your life in a different direction. Try these simple techniques to overcome the challenges in your life.

1. Take an inventory of the things you do well.
2. Pick one of the things you came up with to work on.
3. Take steps to finish the work.
4. Move on to the next thing you want to do.

Regaining hope is often about finding your inner confidence. You reconnect to your inner hope and confidence by actually doing things and experiencing the challenge of completing tasks. Doing things literally impells you to do something besides dwell on your loss of hope. Try these steps and move in a direction that satisfies you. You deserve it.

Cheers,

Guy

Dating Tips 101

Dating Tips 101

One proven way to find dates is to work on yourself first and do the things you love.

When you work on yourself and do things you love you begin moving your life in a direction where you move amongst people who have interests like yours. Find what it is that really makes you happy and move in those circles. In that way, you increase your chances of meeting someone who actually shares your interests and philosophy.

Get yourself as healthy as possible and you will attract the same. The better you feel about yourself the more it wards off the people who love misery. You attract what you project.

A final thought. I realize we are in an online environment here but there is a lot to be said for giving up the safety and fantasy of sitting at a computer for the greater challenge of meeting people face to face. Get out there and show people who you are in person, you deserve a healthy, rewarding relationship.

Cheers,

Guy