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Self-Awareness and Fear

Self-Awareness and Fear


Many people live in fear rather than actively working on increasing their self-awareness so they can live more courageously and happily. When you know yourself deep inside you have the power to resolve the issues that scare you rather than repeating them unconsciously. Here are some of the signs of living in fear:

  • Afraid of new experiences.
  • Fear of people who are perceived as different.
  • Resistance to new ideas or change.
  • Strict adherence to routines.
  • Mistrust of anyone not in one's inner circle.
  • Constant feeling of lack of safety.
  • Uncomfortable with uncertainty.
  • Lashing out toward people and things perceived as threats.
  • Reluctance to acknowledge or heal inner hurts.

People don't do these things because they feel happy and balanced inside, they perpetuate them because they don't know what else to do. Thankfully, there are ways to alleviate fear and they all start with the person's willingness to change direction. Eliminating fear is a gradual process where the person in question deliberately decides to move in a positive direction and replace the old thoughts, feelings and actions with new ones that aren't based on anxiety or alarm. What will you do to not live in fear?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness Coaching

Self-Awareness and Negative Beliefs

Self-Awareness and Negative Beliefs

When you possess a high degree of self-awareness you tend to bypass negative beliefs because you have a more complete understanding of what's really going on inside and around you and how you can move things in a positive direction rather than staying stuck in fear, superstition, inaction or inauthenticity. Here are some ideas to help you reduce the negativity:

  • Realize that you can't possibly control everything around you.
  • Work actively on understanding yourself on a deeper level.
  • Take action each day to do things that are meaningful to you.
  • Believe that your perception of the world doesn't have to be negative.
  • See the big picture rather than getting mired in endless detail.
  • Focus on what's going well.
  • Learn to redirect negative feelings and replace them with positive alternatives.

Negative people and events can't hold you back if you don't let them. You have many options available to you rather than despairing or giving up, what will you do to increase your self-awareness and get rid of negative beliefs?

Cheers,

Guy

Leaders and Their Egos

Leaders and Their Egos

Many leaders run their workplaces with wounded egos and it deeply affects the way their organizations function.  Your ego is your inner perception of the outside world.  This means that you can experience the world based both on your most noble and healthy impulses or most toxic and disabling.

If your perception is positive and you practice self-awareness, you'll tend to view your role in the world as interconnected with others and you'll interact in a healthy way.  You'll base your decisions on the security you feel about yourself and your sense of balance and well-being.  If you function more on the negative side of the spectrum you'll tend to view the world based on your fears and feelings of insecurity.  You might rely on mistaken notions of power, trying to control others, need for attention, desire to dominate or yearning for recognition.

The challenge for conscious leaders arises in that ego can reflect their most dysfunctional characteristics and they can get stuck listening only to that inner voice.  If you only listen to the voice that reminds you of your insecurities or hurts then your leadership moves in a certain direction.  Answer the following questions to get a feel for how your ego is working for you.

1.  In what ways am I constantly working on being the best person I can be?

2.  I what ways do I get my stuff on other people?

3.  In what ways do I depend on others to make me happy?

4.  In what ways do I help others grow and succeed?

5.  What is my view of competition?

6.  What is my view of winning and losing?

As you answer these questions you will likely see a pattern emerging that will show you how balanced your ego is.  Remember that your ego is healthy when you're so confident and secure that you live a great life and help others to do the same.  You don't feel threatened by others and you enjoy their success as much as yours.

A healthy ego will tend to stay in balance, allowing you to behave with calmness and kindness.  For those of you who already lead this way, you know the deep happiness that comes from self-awareness and helping others discover how wonderful they are.  You get to be you at your finest and most balanced.  What advice would you give leaders about ego?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Your True Path

Self-Awareness and Your True Path

As you increase your self-awareness you'll naturally follow your true path in life rather than:

  • Pretending you love doing something you don't.
  • Justifying doing things you really don't find meaningful.
  • Doing things solely for money.
  • Doing something because you sort of like it.
  • Doing something because you can.
  • Following other people's visions.

The more deeply you know and understand yourself, the more you'll:

  • Do things you genuinely love.
  • Do what you really want to do and find meaningful.
  • Worry less about money and more about fulfillment.
  • Do things because you're passionate about them.
  • Do things because they're your calling.
  • Follow your own inner compass.

The key to living an authentic and fulfilling life is to be the real you rather than pretending to be someone else. Take the time to discover who you are and let your authentic self guide your thoughts, feelings and actions. What will you do to follow your true path?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness Coaching

Leadership and Welcoming Change

Leadership and Welcoming Change

Leaders are often faced with the choice of changing or doing what they've always done. Those who welcome change create new opportunities for growth while those who resist it quickly find themselves falling behind. Here are some ideas to help you practice self-awareness and deal with anything that comes your way:

Shift Your Perspective

If you perceive something as scary or negative you'll tend to react based on those feelings. When you focus on how difficult times are or how worried you are about the future, your organization will reflect that perspective. You get to decide whether change scares you or inspires you to take action and build a stronger organization.

Be Proactive

Being proactive is the opposite of panicking because of lack of vision or planning. Think in terms of what you can do to welcome change rather than letting it surprise you. Savvy leaders and organizations think ahead and put policies and procedures in place that welcome change and anticipate future events.

Change Your Habits

It’s normal to be comfortable with your habits but it can easily lead to stagnation. Some leaders have a nervous breakdown when something unexpected comes their way rather than using it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Think of ways of letting go of the old habits that don't work and replacing them with positive behaviors that yield better results.

Evolve

Change is a constant regardless of whether you choose to accept it or pretend it's not happening. Healthy leaders constantly evolve by fine-tuning their leadership style. They relish new ideas and approaches rather than pining for the good old days. Look for ways to continue updating your thinking and behaviors so that you don't become a dinosaur.

You get to decide whether change frightens you or whether you use it to improve your leadership skills. If you're ready to go beyond hanging on for dear life and hoping you make it through difficult situations, then change can help you become a stronger and more nimble leader. What will you do to welcome change?

Cheers,

Guy