The Self-Awareness Guy

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On Being Able to Think of Others

On Being Able to Think of Others


One of the most difficult tasks for human beings is being able to think of others. It takes a significant amount of self-awareness and lack of ego to consider the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of others.

Why even worry about others? We don't live alone in this world, there are billions of other souls we impact both directly and indirectly through our thoughts and actions. Do something negative and it ripples not only inside you, but through the cosmos. Do something positive and the effects build a better world.

Paradoxically, thinking of others allows us to become more well-rounded, balanced human beings. When we treat others with kindness and compassion, we become more caring toward ourselves.

People who are actively building self-awareness often find that they are able to think beyond themselves to the plight of humanity. As they become more and more happy with who they are, they are better able to understand and feel what others are going through. What are your thoughts on being able to think of others?

Cheers,
Guy

Leadership and Letting Go of Negative Behaviors

Leadership and Letting Go of Negative Behaviors


Have you ever kept doing something even though you understand it doesn’t work?  Perhaps you’ve kept enabling a negative workplace behavior because you’ve grown used to it and it’s always been there.  This is natural because we tend to be most comfortable with what we know.  The next time you find yourself hanging on to a negative behavior try letting go of it.

The act of deliberately letting go of a negative work behavior and trying something new helps  you consider new perspectives.  Leaders who let go of the behaviors of the past aren’t weighed down by the old way of doing things.  It’s like taking a breath of fresh air when you’ve been stuck in a stuffy room all day.  You can actually deal with your issues instead of just enduring them and believing there’s nothing else you can do.  When you give negative behaviors less weight you’ll find that they have a way of disappearing.

How do you do it?  Replace the old behavior with a new, positive one.  Practice the new behavior over time until it becomes the new way of doing things.  Support yourself and your employees along the way.

What negative behavior will you let go?

Cheers,
Guy

Meaningful Team Building

Meaningful Team Building

A lot of team building focuses on superficial interactions and activities that make people temporarily happy but overlook the underlying thoughts and behaviors that bring people together. Meaningful team building encourages people to empathize with others and collaborate well. Here are some ideas to help you design a program that goes below the surface:

  • People examine their own behaviors and how they impact others.
  • Each individual talks about what's meaningful to him or her.
  • Everyone listens to others without interruptions or comments.
  • Each person is given the time and space to share meaningfully.
  • The environment is safe and conducive to deeper sharing.
  • People are encouraged to practice empathy and compassion.
  • Participants praise each other.
  • Everyone is invited to let his or her guard down.
  • The process is ongoing and becomes part of the company culture.
  • Leadership demonstrates commitment to the program by participating actively and allocating time and resources.

Try these ideas and you'll help people come together by building self-awareness, connecting on a deeper level and understanding each other beyond pleasantries. What will you do to practice deeper team building?

Cheers,

Guy

Making Life More Complicated than It Needs to Be

Making Life More Complicated than It Needs to Be

Building your self-awareness leads to living a more cohesive, integrated, happy life. I've noticed over the years that some people make life more complicated than it needs to be because they ignore facts. It takes a huge amount of time and energy to pretend that something false is true, and all the while you're trying to support something inaccurate, you're wasting your life.

The much easier and more satisfying path in life is to stick to demonstrable facts, which will keep you from bending yourself into a pretzel shape to explain things. A big reason I enjoy providing life coaching for people who value self-awareness is that they tend to be open to all kinds of facts and ideas and are comfortable with exploring new avenues of knowledge and understanding.

Life becomes infinitely more complex when you try to pretend that facts don't matter. If you don't believe in verifiable data then you have to create a whole alternative reality that requires constant rationalization and explanation. The easier route is to just make sure that your feelings, thoughts, and behaviors align with actual evidence so you can live wide awake.

What are your tips on making life less complicated?

Cheers,
Guy

Leadership that Limits Success

Leadership that Limits Success

There are countless smart, well-intentioned people in leadership positions who limit their organization's success without even knowing it because they behave in ways that hinder growth and progress. What they may not yet realize is that leaders can consciously choose to behave in ways that increase success rather than impede it, let's look at some examples of both approaches:

Behaviors that Limit Success

Need to control everything and project authority.
Inflexibility.
Only one vision.
Resistance to change.
Inability to listen.
Personal insecurity.

Behaviors that Increase Success

Let go of the need for power and control.
Entertain new ideas.
See things from more than one perspective.
Be willing to change.
Listen to people actively and often.
Work on being a secure, balanced individual.

A big part of self-awareness is understanding how your behaviors impact how you and your employees function. Even if your organization is already highly successful, you can practice positive behaviors to make things run even more smoothly. It all starts with being willing to evaluate your own leadership behaviors. What will you do to lead in a way that encourages success?

Cheers,

Guy