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A Culture of Team Building

A Culture of Team Building


Genuine team building goes beyond the occasional bonding activity or retreat to establishing a culture that encourages and rewards collaboration and teaches everyone in your workplace how to build and participate in cohesive teams. Here are five ideas to keep in mind as you begin creating a culture of team building in your organization:

  1. Team building flows from the top. Leaders who practice self-awareness set a positive example of how to behave in the workplace. They show employees the organization is genuinely interested in building healthy teams by actively setting up and participating in an ongoing program.
  1. Team building is a company value. You get to choose what your organization values and what it doesn’t and whether people in the organization work against each other or collaborate. You decide what behaviors are acceptable and encouraged in your workplace.
  1. Train the trainer. Set aside the time and resources to train people at all levels of the organizations who then train their particular departments until all employees have the knowledge to practice effective team building.
  1. Schedule regular time for team building activities. You show your employees that team building is a priority by establishing a weekly stand-alone activity that doesn’t have to share space with other meetings and is attended by people at all levels.
  1. Team building is about celebrating your employees. Design team building activities where leaders and employees can connect on a deeper level, build meaningful relationships and praise each other in public.

As a leader, you decide what kind of work environment you create and whether you commit long-term to making it easier for your employees to come together and work collaboratively. What will you do to support a culture of team building in your organization?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and What Kind of Person You Are

Self-Awareness and What Kind of Person You Are

If you consistently work on increasing your self-awareness, you become a certain kind of person, usually someone who possesses the following qualities:

  • You're comfortable with yourself because you've worked on healing your inner hurts and resolving the challenging issues in your life.
  • You don't have to boast about how great you are or be superior to others. Your confidence comes from knowing yourself so well that you just live life as yourself and celebrate others who are doing the same.
  • You tend to build positive relationships.
  • Your thoughts and beliefs are integrated with your behaviors. For example: You're consistently kind to people in all areas of your life.
  • You're comfortable with your entire range of feelings.
  • You function based on hope and compassion rather than fear and competition.
  • Your public life matches your private life.
  • You don't worry about what others think but you also make sure you're compassionate and work to promote as much good for as many people as possible.
  • Your life has meaning and purpose.
  • You genuinely like yourself deep inside.
  • You live life as the real you.

The great thing about being a human being is that you can choose how you think, feel and behave, which determines what kind of person you are. What will you do to keep building your self-awareness and moving in a positive direction?

Cheers,

Guy

Define Self-Awareness

Define Self-Awareness

My clients often ask me to define self-awareness clearly so they can begin working on it. Here are some of the key elements of self-awareness:

  • Understanding of how your thoughts affect you and others.
  • Realizing how your emotions affect you and the people around you.
  • Recognizing how your behaviors affect you and other people.
  • An ability to evaluate what you do well and what needs some strengthening.
  • Living consciously instead of unconsciously.
  • Knowing who you really are deep inside.
  • Following your true path in life.

There's no mystery to self-awareness, it just means that you understand where your feelings, thoughts, and behaviors come from and that you're able to move them all in a positive direction. What would you add to this list?

Cheers,
Guy

Sick Leadership

Sick Leadership

There are many organizations, some of which are outwardly very successful, that are run by people who are sick. If you've ever worked for leaders like this, you know what it's like to always have to work around their negative and often hurtful behaviors. These are the types of bosses that crush their employees and have a difficult time thinking of anyone but themselves or the bottom line.

A huge part of self-awareness is for leaders to understand that their behavior doesn't only affect them, it reverberates throughout the organization. If a leader is unhealthy he (or she) may be able to hide it for a while but it always has a way of coming out. They can't hide sickness because it eventually spreads all around them no matter how hard they try to contain it. It's why certain companies do all kinds of terrible things that literally hurt people. Thankfully, there is another path that leads in a much more positive direction.

The key to happiness in life is to treat yourself and others well instead of leaving a trail of devastation behind you. True joy comes from resolving your own personal hurts and becoming a genuinely kind person. No amount of money or power can repair the emotional wounds you carry and only you can heal them in order to live an authentically happy, balanced life and be a great leader. What will you do to make sure your organization isn't sick at the top?

Cheers,

Guy

Does Your Boss Have Self-Awareness?

Does Your Boss Have Self-Awareness?

I was facilitating a self-awareness workshop recently and I offered an example of a boss who just didn't get it about how his actions affected his employees. There was a collective groan of recognition from the group and several participants shared their horror stories. Many bosses don't understand how they're affecting the people around them. Here are some of the signs of a boss who lacks self-awareness:

  • Is always in his (or her) own head and only sees things from his perspective.
  • Doesn't ask for input from others.
  • Doesn't take other people's needs or feelings into account.
  • Everything needs to be done his way and there's no room for negotiation.
  • Keeps making the same mistakes over and over.
  • Has a great deal of difficulty with change.
  • Doesn't take even well-intentioned comments or suggestions about his performance well.

It's not that bosses who behave this way are awful people, it's just that they don't know how to do things any other way. The good news is that any boss can build up his self-awareness by looking at himself, keeping the behaviors that work and getting rid of what doesn't. It's a process where he learns about himself and the people around him. The end result is that the boss and his employees are happier and their workplace runs more smoothly. What will you do to become a self-aware boss?

Cheers,

Guy