The Self-Awareness Guy

Self-Awareness Examples

The Person I Am Now

The Person I Am Now


I wasn't always into self-awareness. The person I am now is very different from the one I was years ago. I used to be driven by the need to feel superior, obsessed with what others thought about me; the kind of person who would put other people down to feel better about himself. At the same time, I stuffed my feelings deep inside, tried to ignore them and, consequently, felt horribly unbalanced and unhappy most of the time.

I grew up in a competitive family where you had to fight to be seen and heard. I was not encouraged to acknowledge or work out any of my inner conflicts, I simply had to hold them in and try to appear invincible. My family was ill-equipped to deal with anything emotional. Sure, we knew how to be angry, or sad, or fake happy, but not how to really deal with the core issues that were troubling us. The only way I got any attention was to be dramatic or clown-like because everyone else was so busy sucking all the energy out of everything they touched. This environment taught me to keep things to myself.

When was in my teens, I was an insecure mess who didn't know how to deal with himself or others. I was hurting constantly but was not allowed to talk about it. I didn't know how to build positive relationships. In my twenties I had no idea who I was and treated myself poorly because of it. People on the outside would probably say that I was affable and outgoing, but inside I was a mess. I hurt a lot of people in my teens, twenties, and thirties because I didn't know who I was.

Somewhere along the way I realized that I felt uneasy and disjointed because I wasn't living life as myself. I had learned to conform to the wishes of my family or friends but I hadn't learned to listen to my own inner voice. As soon as I discovered I could be myself, I started shedding all the garbage that had piled up on me and became a kinder, more empathic, more whole person. I pursued my own goals in life and worked hard to live genuinely. Gradually, I began building my self-awareness and healing the hurts from my past.

The person I am now barely resembles the one I used to be. I love being this person and hope it helps build a better world instead of one filed with strife and sadness. What kind of person are you right now?

Cheers,
Guy


Finding Inner Peace

Finding Inner Peace


Self-awareness leads to inner peace because it means you're working through your fears and hurts and sharing who you really are with the world. I was talking with a dear friend recently and mentioned how peaceful I feel each day when I'm doing what I love. I don't have to worry about doing things I don't like or pretending to be someone I'm not, I just have to show up and be me.

Inner peace comes from resolving your issues and following your authentic path in life. Self-awareness is a great tool to heal yourself because there are no limits to how much you can grow. You can explore as much or as little as you wish and all you have to do is be open to sharing your real self with the world. When I'm not helping people build self-awareness, I write poetry. It helps me connect with who I am at my core and express my innermost thoughts and feelings. When I'm writing poetry, nothing else matters because I'm just enjoying being the real me.

I enjoy helping people achieve self-awareness because I've made the journey from being clueless to being rather more enlightened. Along the way, I've learned how to be myself and enjoy life on a deeper, more harmonious level. How do you find inner peace?

Cheers,
Guy

You Decide How to Live Your Life

You Decide How to Live Your Life

If you possess self-awareness, you decide how to live your life, not anyone else. I wish I had known this a long time ago.

For too many years, I followed everyone else's lead instead of my own. I would let other people tell me what I should do with my life, what kind of relationships I should have, and how I should think and behave. It made me feel horrible about myself, to the point where I was self-destructing.

People are amazingly adept at telling you, in both overt and more subtle ways, that you shouldn't be yourself. They make suggestions and demands that keep you from being the authentic you. The key to living a great life is to increase your self-awareness so you can do your own thing and make your own choices. Move forward courageously, and positively, based on what your inner voice is telling you. Do what you love doing.

I'm so glad I figured out that I could follow my own path. What suggestions do you have for living your own life?

Cheers,
Guy

30 Bad Boss Characteristics

30 Bad Boss Characteristics

Here are thirty bad boss characteristics:

  1. They're always right.
  2. They're resistant to change.
  3. They lack emotional intelligence and self-awareness.
  4. They hurt others.
  5. They don't listen.
  6. Everything is about them.
  7. They put people down.
  8. They pit people against each other.
  9. They don't praise.
  10. They lie about or rationalize their behaviors.
  11. They rule from fear instead of kindness.
  12. They dominate meetings.
  13. They lead by telling people what to do instead of having them motivate themselves.
  14. They micromanage.
  15. They try to eliminate people they think are a threat.
  16. They love punishing people.
  17. They don't believe in being touch-feely.
  18. They say stuff like, "We've always done it this way."
  19. They create conflict wherever they go.
  20. They can't work as part of a team.
  21. They're very competitive.
  22. They make jokes at people's expense.
  23. They have unpleasant personalities.
  24. They make their staff feel uncomfortable or miserable.
  25. They lack empathy.
  26. They only look at the bottom line, people don't matter.
  27. They're inflexible.
  28. They're moody.
  29. They brag about being a good boss.
  30. There's high turnover in their department or the company.

Self-aware bosses will look at this list and be able to make adjustments so they aren't hurting others. The ones who don't understand what they're doing aren't a lost cause, it's always possible to build up their skills to move toward being positive bosses. To create enlightened, effective leaders we simply need to have the training in place to teach them how to be able to work out their own personal issues so they can interact effectively with others and be good bosses.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Critical Thinking

Self-Awareness and Critical Thinking

If you're actively working on increasing your self-awareness then you're familiar with critical thinking, the process by which you determine whether something is true or false. When you're able to use facts to determine whether something is valid or not, you're better equipped to deal with any situation that comes your way and live a happier life. Let's look at the difference between an individual who doesn't think critically and one who does:

Person 1

Someone says something to this person that scares her. She can't figure out what to do and doesn't know how to assess what's true or false about what she's being told. Because she doesn't understand the topic at hand, she draws conclusions based on visceral feelings, suppositions, or hunches rather than facts. Unable to ascertain what's really going on, she remains uninformed and fearful.

Person 2

This person has been told the same thing, initially feels scared, but has the presence of mind to evaluate the topic. She does some research to determine what is true or false about what she's been told based on demonstrable and verifiable facts. She is able to view the issue in context and asses its likely impact on her life. She reacts appropriately based on the information she's collected.

You'll be much more likely to live a meaningful and balanced life if you take the time to determine what's actually true or false about any given topic or situation. Some people leave things to emotion, chance, or superstition; you can choose to take a dispassionate look at the issue and deal with it based on demonstrable facts. How will you use your critical thinking skills?

Cheers,

Guy