When I consult for clients I often get questions about finding great men or women to date. People who lack self-awareness often find themselves dating the same general type of person over and over and getting the same results. The good news is that you don’t have to settle, you have an amazing ability to move your dating life in any direction you choose by following some basic steps. Here are a few examples:
1. Build up your self-awareness and find out who you are before you date. This will give you a better idea and more self-esteem to pick more healthy people to date.
2. Understand that people who date you should be supportive, kind, helpful, attentive and should always make you feel that who you are as a person is important.
3. Excitement doesn’t always equal a good person to date. Danger and mystery can be enticing but often turn into very large problems that hurt you.
4. Nobody you date, under any circumstance, should take away your self-esteem or put down your self-awareness.
5. You should never give up your identity to please or accommodate someone you’re dating.
6. You benefit from learning to live alone first and then incorporating someone else into your life. The healthier you are, the better choices you’ll make in the dating arena.
Try considering these points as you date people. Dating should be fun and it ideally lifts you up and makes you feel great. Take some time to think about who you are as a person and work hard on making yourself the best person possible. Remember that vibrant, healthy people see creeps coming down the road and steer clear.
What will you do to develop self-awareness and date good people?
Cheers,
Guy