The Self-Awareness Guy
Developing Self-Awareness: 2 Exercises

Developing Self-Awareness: 2 Exercises


Here are two exercises for developing self-awareness.

1. The Personal Inventory

The way this self-awareness exercise works is that it requires that you actively look at yourself and start working on the things that don't lead in a positive direction in your life. The process of working on certain issues helps you gain better insight into the areas of your life that might benefit from some extra attention.

  • In a notebook divide a page into two columns, label one column "Positive" and the other "Other Than Positive."
  • Write down all the positive things you feel, think, and do in the "Positive" column.
  • Write down the things you think, feel, and do that lead in an "Other Than Positive" column.
  • Read the items in the "Positive" column and praise yourself for each item.
  • Look at your "Other Than Positive" column and pick the one item that seems the easiest to deal with. Once you pick a single item, decide on one action you will do to improve that item. Each subsequent day keep picking something to deal with that same item until it is no longer an issue that leads you in a less than positive direction.
  • Once your "Other Than Positive" item is no longer an issue, go back to the first step and repeat the entire process.
  • Repeat this exercise until you have very few "Other Than Positive" items.
  • Remember that developing self-awareness takes months, years, and will likely require a lifetime of commitment to learning and growing.

2. Looking Deep Inside

In this self-awareness exercise you get to take a deeper look at your emotions. A key element of self-awareness is the ability to look deep within and understand who your really are deep down inside and why you feel, think, and do what you do. Here's how it works:

  • Think of an issue that creates a lot of discomfort in your life.
  • Label that issue with one of these four emotions (whichever fits the best): Anger, Sadness, Happiness, Fear.
  • Once you have chosen a single label then allow yourself five minutes to think of the issue and the emotion attached to it. After five minutes, write down your impressions of what you felt.
  • Keep repeating this exercise until you have a strong sense that the discomfort is no longer there or is greatly lessened.
  • Pick another issue and repeat the entire process.
  • Remember that this isn't a one-time activity, it requires long-term commitment to developing your self-awareness.

You'll find these exercises are challenging, some people even find them nearly impossible at first, but that's the whole point of self-awareness; it's a gradual process that takes time and repeated effort. So that you don't get overloaded, I would recommend you work on these exercises on alternating weeks until you get really good at doing them, at which time you can do them simultaneously; the idea is to keep working on them until they become second nature. You'll find that your self-awareness will naturally increase as you do the exercises. Please feel free to share your progress in the comments section below this post or contact me directly, I'd love to hear how you're doing.

Cheers,

Guy



Tips for Building Self-Awareness

Tips for Building Self-Awareness


Here are some tips for building self-awareness:

  • Be willing to take an honest look at yourself.
  • Celebrate your strengths.
  • Be ready to let go of old thoughts and behaviors.
  • Look at the issues in your life you want to resolve.
  • Select an issue you want to work on.
  • Brainstorm some ideas of how to deal with the issue.
  • Pick one idea to start working on.
  • Evaluate your progress.
  • Repeat the process.

Increasing your self-awareness is an ongoing, lifelong process. It's not a quick fix because it takes time to get to know the real you and learn new strategies to live authentically. What will you do to start building self-awareness?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness Is about You

Self-Awareness Is about You

It's hard to experience self-awareness if you decide you don't want to work on it. You have a lot of power to decide what you're willing to do. You can move forward confidently or you can put up obstacles. The only person who chooses whether you grow and succeed is you.

Take some time to think of the areas in your life you'd like to improve and what would make you feel happy and balanced. Then it's up to you to determine where you want to start and what you're willing to do. The key in self-awareness is to live authentically and take action on the things that will help you live a genuine life.

Cheers,

Guy

 

Self-Awareness Quotes

Self-Awareness Quotes

Here are a few quotes about self-awareness from some wise people:

Hide not your talents, they for use were made. What’s a sundial in the shade?
Benjamin Franklin

What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.
Abraham Maslow

Most of the shadows of life are caused by standing in our own sunshine.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Love not what you are, but what you may become.
Cervantes

There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.
Aldous Huxley

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
Carl Jung

You can live a lifetime and, at the end of it, know more about other people than you know about yourself.
Beryl Markham

In the last decade or so, science has discovered a tremendous amount about the role emotions play in our lives. Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and abilities to handle feelings will determine your success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships.
John Gottman

You're cordially invited to browse this site to learn more about self-awareness.

Cheers,

Guy

What Self-Awareness Isn’t

What Self-Awareness Isn’t

A lot of people think self-awareness happens simply by saying you have it. This leads to people insisting that they understand themselves well while leaving a trail of destruction wherever they go. Here are some examples of what self-awareness isn't:

  • Saying you do one thing and then doing another.
  • Having various parts of your life in conflict.
  • Saying you care about people but treating certain ones poorly.
  • Insisting you're happy and balanced when you have a lot of unfinished inner business to deal with.
  • You say you love yourself but you do things that hurt you.
  • Thinking and behaving in ways that hurt others.
  • Saying that other people don't have self-awareness and then doing things that demonstrate you don't.

Getting to know yourself well is an ongoing process where you comprehend why you think and do certain things and continuously move your life in a positive direction. You become so comfortable with yourself that you treat others with great care and compassion because you're deeply happy inside. What will you do to keep building self-awareness?

Cheers,

Guy