The Self-Awareness Guy
5 Steps to Achieve Leadership Success

5 Steps to Achieve Leadership Success


I frequently talk with leaders who ask me if there is a secret to success and I usually let them know that all it really takes is purposeful action. Purposeful action means that you are fully conscious and have thought about every action that you take. You don't leave things to chance except when appropriate and you consciously do things to improve yourself.

Think of success in terms of practical things you can do to move in whatever direction you want. The following steps will help you achieve what you want by building self-awareness and taking action:

1. Define what success means to you.

2. Break your definition into parts and give each one a clear name. These become your goals.

3. Select one goal you want to work on.

4. Brainstorm different tasks that will help you achieve your goal.

5. Pick one task and follow it through to completion.

Use these five steps to keep moving forward. Success is based on continuous movement and action.  With each action you complete you become stronger and more successful. Don't worry too much about what goal you choose or what action to take, it is the act of doing things that creates successful leaders who create more productive workplaces.

Cheers,

Guy

On Being Able to Think of Others

On Being Able to Think of Others


One of the most difficult tasks for human beings is being able to think of others. It takes a significant amount of self-awareness and lack of ego to consider the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of others.

Why even worry about others? We don't live alone in this world, there are billions of other souls we impact both directly and indirectly through our thoughts and actions. Do something negative and it ripples not only inside you, but through the cosmos. Do something positive and the effects build a better world.

Paradoxically, thinking of others allows us to become more well-rounded, balanced human beings. When we treat others with kindness and compassion, we become more caring toward ourselves.

People who are actively building self-awareness often find that they are able to think beyond themselves to the plight of humanity. As they become more and more happy with who they are, they are better able to understand and feel what others are going through. What are your thoughts on being able to think of others?

Cheers,
Guy

Dealing with Complex Issues

Dealing with Complex Issues

A big part of practicing self-awareness is being able to examine the complexities in the world through thinking critically and considering issues from more than one perspective. It's easy to look at everything from one point of view, you just make a quick decision based on what you've always thought, but I prefer living in a world where things don't always have an immediate answer.

A lot of people are afraid of dealing with complex issues like death or self-awareness, but it's in those types of difficult topics that we discover the meaning of life. It's simpler to subsist avoiding the deeper issues in life but we stay stuck at that level, which doesn't lead to great meaning or fulfillment. I've found it far more productive to welcome ambiguity and discomfort and use them to learn and grow.

How do you deal with complex issues?

Cheers,
Guy

Leadership and Letting Go of Negative Behaviors

Leadership and Letting Go of Negative Behaviors

Have you ever kept doing something even though you understand it doesn’t work?  Perhaps you’ve kept enabling a negative workplace behavior because you’ve grown used to it and it’s always been there.  This is natural because we tend to be most comfortable with what we know.  The next time you find yourself hanging on to a negative behavior try letting go of it.

The act of deliberately letting go of a negative work behavior and trying something new helps  you consider new perspectives.  Leaders who let go of the behaviors of the past aren’t weighed down by the old way of doing things.  It’s like taking a breath of fresh air when you’ve been stuck in a stuffy room all day.  You can actually deal with your issues instead of just enduring them and believing there’s nothing else you can do.  When you give negative behaviors less weight you’ll find that they have a way of disappearing.

How do you do it?  Replace the old behavior with a new, positive one.  Practice the new behavior over time until it becomes the new way of doing things.  Support yourself and your employees along the way.

What negative behavior will you let go?

Cheers,
Guy

10 Easy Ways to Ensure Your Employees Hate You

10 Easy Ways to Ensure Your Employees Hate You

I've worked with a lot of different leaders both as a trainer and consultant and I've noticed that many of them consistently do things to make their employees unhappy.  None of these people are uncaring, unprofessional or evil in any way, they just don't know what else to do.  It's as if they let things get out of hand one little step at a time until, one day, the car is driving off the cliff.

Very few leaders go to work with the intention of damaging their employees but there are an alarming number of workplaces where, if you asked employees, the boss would be less popular than a toothache.  Here are ten things I've noticed leaders do that increase the chances their employees will hate them.

1.  Never ask for feedback.
2.  Never listen, just talk at people.
3.  Tell people you're treating them poorly for their own good.
4.  Don't allow people to complain or dissent in any way.
5.  Make the workplace hyper-competitive instead of collaborative.
6.  Hang out with pet employees and show favoritism.
7.  Don't be consistent in your decision making.
8.  Run around like everything is an emergency.
9.  Micromanage a lot and give a lot of unsolicited advice.
10.  Treat people like they don't know anything and you don't trust them.

Have you ever worked with someone like this?  Think of what kind of workplace it created.  A large percentage of workplaces actually run like this even if they have a veneer of civility.  This is usually because we've let our organizations run out of control one small step at a time by forgetting that employees are really valuable and important.  Try doing the opposite of these things and you'll find your employees will like you a lot more.  You don't have to be perfect, just start changing the direction of your leadership one small step at time.

Have you ever hated a boss?  Share your story.

Cheers,

Guy