The Self-Awareness Guy
Welcome to The Self-Awareness Guy

Welcome to The Self-Awareness Guy

When I was growing up, and into early adulthood, I was a mess of a human being. I disliked myself and routinely did things that hurt me and other people. After many painful lessons, I realized that if I didn't look deep inside myself I would be miserable for the rest of my life. I've seen what it's like to live without self-awareness and with it, only one of them leads in a positive direction. I hope my experience helps others avoid the mistakes I've made and vastly improve their professional and personal lives. I started this website to reach out to like-minded people who understand that self-awareness is the answer to so many of life's questions. Cheers, Guy.

 


Get a free 30-minute Self-Awareness Consulting or Self-Awareness Coaching session.

 


Sign up for free weekly updates, you’ll get the latest posts to help you keep moving forward.


 

 


Thanks for visiting my site, please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or comments.

Cheers,

Guy

How to Increase Your Self-Esteem

How to Increase Your Self-Esteem

Here are some self-awareness building ideas to help you increase your self-esteem:

  • Do one thing at a time instead of everything all at once.
  • Trust your instincts.
  • Surround yourself with people who support your growth.
  • Celebrate your achievements as you go along.
  • Be true to yourself and do things you love.
  • Don't let others hold you back.
  • Live your life, not someone else's.
  • Practice completing tasks.
  • The more you practice the more confident you'll be.
  • Let people know what you need.
  • Find out who you really are.
  • Share your talents and abilities with the world.
  • Learn how to say no.

The key element in how to increase your self-esteem is living your life in a positive way. Think and behave positively and you'll move in a favorable direction. You may encounter obstacles and challenges but you'll be building your self-esteem by continuing to take action and believe in yourself.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness in Leadership Development

Self-Awareness in Leadership Development

I've worked with a wide range of leaders in variety of public and private companies and organizations and I frequently get questions about the role of self-awareness in leadership development. I usually answer by saying that there is no such thing as effective leadership without self-awareness. Let's look at some differences between a leader with self-awareness and one who doesn't possess it:

Leader without Self Awareness

Reacts to everything, gets scared often, behaves in a domineering way, corrects employee behavior through punishment, rules through fear, creates chaos in the workplace, promotes high turnover, not emotionally intelligent.

Leader with Self-Awareness

Thinks and behaves proactively, shifts fear into courage, motivates people from within, praises positive behaviors, rules through trust and collaboration, creates a calm work environment, builds a workplace people want to stay at, is highly emotionally intelligent.

The strange thing I've noticed is that virtually every single workplace is like the first example rather than the second because we've become accustomed to leadership without self-awareness. It doesn't have to be that way. When I work with leaders, we look at ways to develop their self-awareness skills, things like:

  • Understanding how their emotions, behaviors, and actions affect them, others, and the workplace.
  • Recognizing their strengths and areas for improvement.
  • Being able to ask for help.
  • Being comfortable with employees' emotions.
  • Building teams and promoting collaboration.
  • Communicating effectively, listening actively.
  • Helping people motivate themselves instead of having orders shouted at them.
  • Behaving calmly instead of in constant emergency mode.
  • Behaving with kindness and empathy.
  • Building a highly productive workplace based on trust rather than fear.
  • Avoiding micromanaging.
  • Healing their own inner hurts instead of getting their stuff on employees.

The key to extraordinary leadership development is to build leaders who are self-aware and do things differently than how most of our workplaces have done them since the beginning of the industrial revolution. We now have the knowledge to create healthy, collaborative workplaces where people get a lot done and do it with a sense of fulfillment and joy instead of coercion and fear. All it takes is deciding to educate your leaders in how to be self-aware, everything else flows from that initial enlightenment.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Trusting Your Inner Voice

Self-Awareness and Trusting Your Inner Voice

Nothing is a beautiful as the voice inside you. Pay attention to it and you'll live a life of great self-awareness, success and happiness. Ignore it and you'll move in a very different direction. Your inner voice is that part of you that tells you what you really want to do in life and who you are deep inside.

Self-awareness means paying attention to your inner voice as it guides you toward living authentically and making your dreams come true. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to begin discovering your true path:

  1. If I could choose any career in life what would it be?
  2. What is the talent I possess that I could use to bring joy into my life?
  3. What message(s) is my inner voice sending me?
  4. How would my life be different if I listened to my inner voice?
  5. What will I commit to doing today to achieve what my inner voice tells me to?

As you answer these questions you'll begin thinking more deeply about the things you find meaningful and fulfilling. Imagine living your life based on what you want to do rather than settling for whatever comes your way or what other people tell you to do. What will you do to listen to your inner voice?

Cheers,

Guy

Our Culture and Success

Our Culture and Success

Our culture often defines success it as having a lot of money, prestige, or power. My interpretation of success is building your self-awareness so you can be in touch with who you are inside and live in such a way that you don't need to worry about wealth or influence.

There are countless really rich and powerful people who are miserable; you can tell because they don't treat others well. Anyone who is willing to harm other people doesn't feel good about himself or herself deep inside. Happy, balanced, fulfilled people treat themselves and others kindly because their lives are centered around creating a positive world rather than amassing wealth or crushing others.

I love providing life coaching for people who value self-awareness because they tend to view success in terms of how healthy they are, not how much stuff they have or trophies they display on the mantle. Even if you don't make a penny, you can still create something of great value. How do you define success?

Cheers,
Guy

Do You Feel Insecure?

Do You Feel Insecure?

Perhaps you feel insecure about yourself and wonder if people are judging you or don’t like you. Insecurity is not about other people, it’s about you. When you feel insecure you are looking at the world through your fears. Some helpful things to think about when you’re feeling insecure are:

  • What difference does it make what that person thinks of you?
  • Nothing anybody says can affect you unless you let it.
  • Insecurity goes away when you practice doing things and become more proficient over time.
  • Take a moment to take it easy on yourself.
  • There are great things about you that you can feel secure about right now.
  • You can start healing yourself any time you decide to.
  • You’re a wonderful person.
  • You have unique talents and abilities.

Practice helps you build confidence and competence. The next time you feel insecure ask yourself, “Why am I feeling this?” and consciously decide to move in a positive direction. Only you have the power to get rid of insecurity, by thinking and behaving differently. What do you do to feel less insecure?

Cheers,

Guy