The Self-Awareness Guy

Welcome to The Self-Awareness Guy

Have you given up on developing self-awareness?

It can be hard to figure out what self-awareness is to begin with and then how it applies to your personal life or workplace. It's also difficult to ask some outside person for help.

I'm self-awareness coach and consultant Guy Farmer and I love helping open-minded, forward-thinking people and organizations develop self-awareness.


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Self-Awareness and the House of Cards

I you aren't actively building self-awareness your run the risk of spending your entire life carefully constructing a house of cards that could come tumbling down at any moment and for any reason. Thankfully, you don't have to live precariously perched on the edge of disaster, there are much more balanced and fulfilling ways to live, such as:

  • Spending time finding out what you love doing in life.
  • Deciding which of your thoughts and behaviors genuinely reflect who you are deep inside.
  • Thinking, feeling and behaving positively.
  • Living genuinely and authentically.
  • Being happy with yourself deep down inside.
  • You don't pretend you're something you're not.
  • You attract people who know and appreciate the real you.
  • Your life is in balance, no one area dominates all the time.
  • Your happiness isn't based on defeating others or being on top of them.
  • Other people describe you as a self-aware, kind, wonderful person.
  • You help others feel great about themselves.

The idea in life is to have the self-awareness necessary to consciously move your life in a direction that reflects the real you rather than pretending you're someone else. What will you do to avoid the house of cards and show the world the amazing authentic you?



Your Thoughts Affect Your Leadership

As a leader, your thought patterns help you perform well at work or create obstacles.  You decide where your thoughts take you and whether you build self-awareness and modify your current thinking patterns to get positive results.  Here's what some smart people have to say about this idea.

There is no chance, no destiny, no fate, that can hinder or control the firm resolve of a determined soul. Ella Wheeler Wilcox.

Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.  Marcus Aurelius.

With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.  Eleanor Roosevelt.

Real generosity toward the future lies in giving all to the present.  Albert Camus.

Take some time to reorganize your thoughts and you might find you can change long-established patterns that lead nowhere.  If you consciously think in new and exciting ways you can literally shift the path of your leadership and the development of your organization.


Congruency and Happiness

As it applies to self-awareness, congruency means that your thoughts and actions match each other. A lot of people live lives where they think one thing but behave in ways that aren't consistent with those thoughts. This creates tension and inner conflict.

One of the best ways to achieve congruency is to act in ways that are consistent with what you think. For example: If you say you're going to do something, do it; if you believe something, make sure your actions match. You'll feel happier and more balanced once you bring your thoughts and actions together.



10 Signs You Lack Self-Awareness

Here are ten signs you lack self-awareness:

  • You always feel off-balance.
  • You can't seem to control your emotions: You're angry, or sad, or scared a lot of the time.
  • You do things to not feel your emotions.
  • You have unresolved issues in your life that affect you and others adversely.
  • You feel like you're living life as someone else.
  • You don't know who you really are deep inside.
  • There is a lot of conflict in your life, within yourself and with others.
  • You feel like you're not following your true path in life.
  • You're unhappy with how your life is going.
  • You listen to others instead of listening to your inner voice.

If you recognize yourself in any of these items then you have a great opportunity to take an honest look at yourself and start working on being the best version of you possible. Self-awareness isn't something that happens automatically, you have to identify the areas in your life that require some attention and work on them so you become a healthier more well-rounded person.



The Definition of Diversity

Leaders frequently ask me what is the definition of diversity and I let them know that it's simply welcoming and celebrating the wisdom, talents, life experiences, and perspectives of the people in their organizations. Here are a few concepts to help illustrate what diversity is:

  • It's a variety of people with different life experiences coming together to create a positive workplace.
  • Diversity welcomes and celebrates various outlooks and worldviews.
  • It's a philosophy that honors and encourages differences.
  • Diversity is about inviting everyone to the table and valuing their input.
  • It increases our choices and access to opportunities.
  • It's a reflection of who we are deep inside and how we relate to others.
  • Diversity means we understand we're all in the same boat
  • It's not feeling threatened by people who are different.
  • Diversity proposes that we all share this planet and have a duty to help one another.

Diversity at its core is about welcoming and honoring all people and realizing that we're all valuable and worth treating with kindness and respect.