A lot of wonderful people don’t pursue their dreams because they’d rather feel safe than experience heartache and setbacks. Sticking your neck out and showing the world your talent, no matter what happens, is one of the most difficult things for anyone to do. It takes an amazing amount of self-awareness and courage to be who you really are and share it confidently with everyone, including critics and detractors.
If you live for safety you’ll always take the route that leads to maintaining a feeling of being comfortable, and that’s rarely a creative or fulfilling path. If you’re actively striving to make your dreams come true, you know that it can be challenging but at least you’re proving that you have the courage to keep moving forward regardless of what anyone says or any obstacle that presents itself.
The difference between safety and courage is that playing it safe keeps you stuck and unhappy, often for a lifetime. Thankfully, you can always choose to build up your self-awareness, understand your strengths and areas for improvement, and take action each day to make your dreams come true. Which path do you follow, safety or courage, and for what reasons?
A big part of self-awareness is identifying who you are and what you really want to do in life. It’s being able to answer the question: “What do you have to say?” There is a simple beauty to sharing whatever is going on inside you. You don’t have to create some sweeping epic, just do things based on what you’re thinking and feeling inside. Forget about judging what you’re doing or comparing it to other people’s work, just use your own amazing voice.
When I write about self-awareness, I begin with no preconceptions. I let whatever thought is percolating in my mind guide my words. It doesn’t matter what the topic is, the only important thing is to listen to what my heart and mind say and be open to following my true instincts, which is what I encourage people to do in their own lives. As you build your self-awareness, you’ll find it gets easier to just be yourself and let your true voice emanate from within you.
Each of us has valuable insights and perspectives to share with the world. What do you have so say?
Our culture often tells us that we have to live in fear. We’re constantly fed news and information about safety and avoiding various bogeymen. We scamper around, afraid that the latest threat is already under our bed. The challenge in the face of this onslaught of anxiety is to move beyond the fight or flight instinct and live with self-awareness, courage, and hope.
If all you do is sit around being scared of something, then you’ll live a life where you don’t follow your dreams, or do what you love doing. Fear keeps you stuck trying to be safe instead of courageously following your inner voice. It’s up to you to decide what kind of life you want to live: One where you stifle your voice, or one where you sing joyfully.
I love connecting with people who value self-awareness because they understand what’s it’s like to exist in a realm of uncertainty and nebulousness and create something positive out of it. They live with hope and valor instead of trepidation. What do you do to avoid living in fear?
I love connecting with kind, sensitive, creative people who value self-awareness because they tend to spread positive vibes that help build a happier, more compassionate and enlightened world.
So, why would anyone want to be this type of person? Because it leads to greater joy and fulfillment. Kindness means behaving in a way that demonstrates empathy and care for something or someone else. It’s a peaceful state of being that creates harmony. Sensitivity means dealing positively with your own feelings and being attuned to others’ emotions as well. Creativity means that you have the courage to think differently and challenge conventions. When you mix these three qualities you have a person who is able to live a deeply satisfying, positive life and have a beneficial impact on his or her environment.
Imagine a world where people treat each other with kindness, are sensitive to their own and each other’s feelings, and create beautiful things. It’s a very different state of being than what we’ve been led to believe is the way things should be (competitions, strife, jealousy, brokenness). Having self-awareness means that you’re able to rise above pettiness and self-centeredness and behave in ways that benefit the greater good.
What are your thoughts on being a kind, sensitive, creative person?
As someone who values self-awareness, you likely understand the role you play in building a better world for everyone. Here are some ideas on how to become a person who makes a difference:
- Heal the inner hurts from your past so that you feel as good about yourself as possible. People who understand themselves well and have worked out their difficult issues are better able to help others because their own stuff doesn’t get in the way.
- Take action each day to make your dreams come true. Wake up each morning ready to do things your really love. Don’t settle for just anything that comes your way, work deliberately to make things happen. You don’t have to do everything at once, just take a small step every day.
- Be yourself. Don’t live someone else’s life, be who you really are deep inside no matter what others say.
- Believe that the world can be better. If you don’t believe in a compassionate, equitable, caring world, you can’t be part of the solution. Only people who believe in feeling, thinking, and behaving positively can create a more positive world.
- Love more. Love yourself, love others, love the earth. Fill your days with love.
- Keep doing things you love and that come from your heart. Your contribution is unique and valuable.
- Keep building your self-awareness.
Do these things and you’ll feel so great about yourself that you’ll automatically generate positive vibes. What are your ideas for building a better world?
Most people live unconsciously, without much self-awareness, bouncing around from one event to another and reacting based on whatever they feel at that particular moment. They automatically repeat the patterns and roles they learned in their families or wherever they grew up and never move past them. That’s why you see so many adults who behave like children or are perpetually stuck in high school.
Living consciously is an entirely different approach to life. It means building up you self-awareness by getting to know yourself so well that you can deliberately feel, think, and behave positively. It means that you don’t react to things based on your hurts, you actively choose an affirmative path. You’re able to think not only about yourself, but about others and the greater good. You move past reacting to people and events and become a creator and promoter of beautiful things.
I enjoy connecting with self-aware people because of their ability to get to know themselves on a deeper level and live life authentically. What are your tips for living consciously?
Are you really happy or just pretending? Over many years of providing self-awareness coaching and training to individuals and groups, I’ve noticed that the less happy people are, the more vociferously they will claim to be happy. It’s as if they feel they have to put up a brave front so that nobody will know how much they’re really hurting inside.
You can’t be genuinely happy in life if you walk around with tons of unresolved or conflicting issues rattling around in your head. I’ve met many a “happy” person who is so quick to anger that it’s frightening. When you’re truly happy, you feel, think and behave in ways that are consistent with happiness, for example:
- You treat others well.
- You’re kind to people without expecting anything in return.
- You don’t feel like you have to beat anyone.
- You help others succeed.
- You think and behave with empathy.
- The various parts of your psyche aren’t fighting each other.
- You don’t suppress your emotions.
- You feel a sense of well-being and balance inside.
- You smile and laugh genuinely and often.
- You live life as the real you.
True happiness comes from a deep sense of peace and well-being inside you. It means that you’ve built up your self-awareness, worked on your hurts, and healed yourself to the point where pain doesn’t rule your life or you’re not trying to ignore it.
What do you think creates real happiness?