Self-aware people learn from conflict because they understand their and others’ emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, and how each party can contribute to making matters worse or better.
Some people love conflict and some run screaming from it. Yet conflict can signal that something very important is happening and that we need to pay attention. Conflict is also a great opportunity to build self-awareness and learn about each other to fix things for the better. Try these tips the next time you have and issue with someone:
1. Name the problem (what is it).
2. Each of you describe how you see the problem.
3. Come up with a few ways to fix the problem.
4. Agree and choose one solution.
5. Get an outside person involved if you can’t decide on a solution.
I’ve found that if two people just sit down and agree to talk (respectfully and without shouting) they can resolve even the most complex problem. It’s wonderful to see two people come to an agreement and figure out a way to resolve a nagging issue. It’s almost like a weight has been lifted off their back.
What will you do to develop self-awareness and learn from conflict?
Cheers,
Guy