The Self-Awareness Guy

Self-Awareness Dating Tips

February 28, 2023 - The Self-Awareness Guy

People who possess self-awareness have an easier time dating because they understand their and others’ emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. This allows them to enter relationships with a clearer view of what’s really going on inside themselves and the other person. So, let’s look at some ways you can be more self-aware and enjoy dating.

One proven way to find dates is to work on yourself first and do the things you love. When you work on yourself and do things you love you begin moving your life in a direction where you move amongst people who have interests like yours. Find what it is that really makes you happy and move in those circles. In that way, you increase your chances of meeting someone who actually shares your interests and philosophy.

Get yourself as self-aware and healthy as possible and you will attract the same. The better you feel about yourself the more it wards off the people who love misery. You attract what you project.

A final thought. I realize we are in an online environment here but there is a lot to be said for giving up the safety and fantasy of sitting at a computer for the greater challenge of meeting people face to face. Get out there and show people who you are in person, you deserve a healthy, rewarding relationship.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and date more effectively?

Cheers,

Guy

Are You Living a Self-Aware, Creative Life?

February 27, 2023 - The Self-Awareness Guy - 2 Comments

Self-awareness and creativity go hand in hand because, when you understand your own emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, you are able to draw upon them to think unconventionally and inventively.

Creativity is one of the most effective ways to overcome any challenges in our lives. Moving in a different direction is often a matter of thinking creatively and doing something differently. Here’s what some smart people say about creativity:

Albert Einstein:

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.

Arthur Koestler:

Creativity is a type of learning process where the teacher and pupil are located in the same individual.

Beatrix Potter:

Thank goodness I was never sent to school; it would have rubbed off some of the originality.

Being self-aware and creative is wonderful because you get to experience life to its fullest; with passion, courage, and always open to new ways of seeing things. You also get to explore exciting possibilities you might not have encountered if you were stuck being unimaginative. What will you do to develop self-awareness and enjoy a creative life?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Dealing with Your Feelings

February 27, 2023 - The Self-Awareness Guy

When you possess self-awareness, you’re able to live in harmony with your feelings. A common deathbed regret is that people wish they had dealt with their feelings instead of trying to ignore or cover them up. It’s vital to feel your feelings so you can live a healthy, happy life. When you don’t experience your feelings, you cut off a huge part of who you are. We are all feeling beings with a wide range of emotions.

Much damage has been done to people by societal norms that minimize feelings but what could be more normal than acknowledging what you feel inside? If you’re sad, you’re sad. If you’re scared, you’re scared. If you’re happy, you’re happy. There’s no mystery to feelings, they’re just natural states of being that your brain and body produce.

My years of helping people build self-awareness have taught me that feelings have to be recognized and dealt with, you can never ignore them. That sadness you feel will never completely go away unless you deal with it. Feelings are so important to your well-being that you literally can’t live a truly happy life unless you understand how to manage them positively.

How can you begin feeling your feelings? Each time one comes up, acknowledge it. Simply realize that, no matter how uncomfortable they may be, you can handle them and they are a natural part of you. The key to living a happy life is to gradually heal the difficult feelings and emphasize the positive ones.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and feel your feelings?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness Is the Opposite of Submission

February 26, 2023 - The Self-Awareness Guy

I’ve always been profoundly puzzled by people who give up all their power to some authority figure. Self-awareness is the opposite of submission: It means speaking your mind and talking about what’s meaningful to you, even when it’s uncomfortable. It’s exploring parts of the universe that other people don’t dare examine and saying and doing things that upset the status quo. It’s living genuinely and questioning the established order. It’s the opposite of submitting to some outside entity.

When you give up your own decision-making ability you give away your self. What does that leave you? Nothing. No amount of riches or status can make up for not living authentically, the voice inside you will always be reminding you of who your really are, regardless of how hard you try to silence it. I love connecting with people who value self awareness because they chart their own course rather than submitting to rules imposed by others who are completely out of control.

How do you emphasize self-awareness over submission?

Cheers,
Guy

Welcome to The Self-Awareness Guy Ver1

February 26, 2023 - The Self-Awareness Guy

I’m self-awareness consultant, workshop and retreat facilitator Guy Farmer. I love helping kind, creative people take a deeper look at their thoughts, emotions and behaviors and learn how to live consciously and deliberately. It’s wonderful to see open-minded, courageous individuals let go of what doesn’t work and discover new ways to enjoy deeply fulfilling and meaningful lives.

I wrote about self-awareness for many years at my previous website, Self-Awareness Workshops, http://www.theselfawarenessguy.com, and decided to apply my knowledge and experience to transition from a corporate training based practice to a person-centered approach.

Self-awareness is the process of discovering who you really are and living your life authentically, based on who you are deep inside. I started this blog as a resource for anyone interested in taking a candid look at themselves and understanding why they think, feel and behave the way they do. Your comments and questions are welcome.

Cheers,

Guy

People Who Possess Self-Awareness Are Less Insecure

February 26, 2023 - The Self-Awareness Guy

People who possess self-awareness understand that the one thing that creates more strife between human beings at every level is insecurity and that it leads to all kinds of undesirable outcomes including toxic relationships and even war between groups and nations. Here is a list of insecurities that are common in people who lack self-awareness:

Feeling like you’re less important than someone else.
Having to win all the time or being unable to lose.
Getting mad at people because you project your hurts onto them.
Having to brag all the time.
Trying to be on top of people, in a position of superiority.
Putting others down.
Pitting yourself against other people and groups.
Making enemies instead of friends.
Finding reasons to be hurt by others no matter how nice they are.
Lashing out at others and claiming you’re the victim.
Acting out of fear and anger instead of courage and love.
Lacking empathy because you think other people will take something away from you.
Not being able to trust others.
Seeing the world as a dangerous, unsafe place full of people who want to hurt you.

The key thing to understand about insecurity is that it has nothing to do with the outside world and everything to do with how unsafe you feel inside. The way to move past feelings of insecurity is to heal your inner wounds and learn how to emphasize your positive feelings, thoughts, and behaviors so you can move in a more healthy, secure direction. After all, the only person who can make you feel safe is you.

What will you do to develop self-awareness and get rid of insecurity?

Cheers,

Guy

Beginning Your Self-Awareness Journey

February 25, 2023 - The Self-Awareness Guy

Beginning your self-awareness journey requires examining what you actually think, feel and do in the physical world. It’s one thing to say that you do something but it’s quite another to understand how it affects you and others and consciously decide to direct it. A lot of people recognize that they do certain things but don’t take the additional step of working toward improving what they do or creating change in their lives.

When you’re genuinely building self-awareness, you’re in an ongoing process of examining what you do in life and consciously moving in a positive direction. You listen to your inner voice, let it guide you toward who you really are deep inside, and the rest of your life follows. You can begin this process at any time, all it requires is your decision to look at yourself as objectively as possible. What will you do to begin your self-awareness journey?

Cheers,

Guy