Self-Aware

Lack of Self-Awareness and Missed Opportunities

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A lot of people who don’t value self-awareness live lives of missed opportunities; unconsciously reacting to their environment and passing up the chance to do things that really matter to them.

You get to decide how your life unfolds. If you choose to live with courage you might do things like:

  • Tell people you love them.
  • Promote peace.
  • Build positive relationships.
  • Work on resolving your inner hurts.
  • Do nice things for others.
  • Follow your dreams.
  • Do things that create a better world.
  • Increase your self-awareness.

While these types of actions might seem daunting and complex at first glance, taking small steps each day can build amazing things over time. Each positive action you take has a way of reverberating in the universe; at very least, you’ll feel good about what you’re doing.

I truly enjoy connecting with self-aware people because they focus on the things that really mean something in life. What will you do to develop self-awareness and avoid missing opportunities?

Cheers,

Guy

7 Benefits of Self-Awareness

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The more self-awareness you possess, the more positive your life can be. Here are seven benefits of self-awareness:

  • Greater ability to manage your thinking and behavior.
  • Getting to know yourself more fully.
  • Dealing with your personal issues at a deeper level.
  • Becoming healthier and happier inside.
  • Understanding who you really are as a person.
  • Living your life authentically.
  • Treating yourself and others well.

It takes deliberate time and effort to build self-awareness but, the more you get to know yourself, the more in-tune you’ll be with who you really are and what brings you happiness in life. What would you add to this list?

Cheers,
Guy

Self-Awareness Is about You

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It’s hard to experience self-awareness if you decide you don’t want to work on it. You have a lot of power to decide what you’re willing to do. You can move forward confidently or you can put up obstacles. The only person who chooses whether you grow and succeed is you.

Take some time to think of the areas in your life you’d like to improve and what would make you feel happy and balanced. Then it’s up to you to determine where you want to start and what you’re willing to do. The key in self-awareness is to live authentically and take action on the things that will help you live a genuine life.

Cheers,

Guy

 

Self-Awareness and Taking Action Go Hand in Hand

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Self-awareness and taking action go hand in hand because, when you understand your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, you are in a great position to do things to move your life forward consciously and positively.

The only difference between those who succeed and those who stay stuck is taking action. I’m always amazed at the incredible things people can do when they decide to act to make their dreams a reality. Here’s what some smart people say about the subject:

Annie Dillard:

How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.

Aristotle:

Moral excellence comes about as a result of habit. We become just by doing just acts, temperate by doing temperate acts, brave by doing brave acts.

Alfred Adler:

Trust only movement. Life happens at the level of events, not of words. Trust movement.

Anatole France:

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.

Ann Radcliffe:

One act of beneficence, one act of real usefulness, is worth all the abstract sentiment in the world.

Go out today and take action to make your dreams a reality, you’ll be glad you did. Remember that you don’t have to do everything at once, just do one small thing each day and, over time, you’ll see the results in your life. What will you do to develop self-awareness and take action?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Loving Yourself

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Loving yourself is easier when you possess self-awareness because you understand who you are at a deeper level and are able to live authentically. A lot of people walk through life barely liking who they are and it shows in their thoughts and actions toward themselves and others, including behaviors like self-sabotage, unhealthy relationships and not pursuing their dreams. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll have a difficult time discovering the real you because it will remain hidden until you’re ready.

The key to being happy in life and genuinely loving who you are is to understand your strengths and areas for improvement. Take a careful look at the things you think, feel and do that bring you success and those that don’t and work on improving the areas that need some attention. Loving yourself is an ongoing process of looking at yourself, keeping the things that build you up and letting go of the stuff that holds you back. As you do more positive things in life, you’ll grow to admire the person you’ve become. What will you do to start loving yourself?

Cheers,

Guy

The Importance of Self-Awareness in Social Work

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As someone with a family services, program management, and personal/professional development background, as well as an MSW, I’ve had the pleasure of working with a wide range of people, both self-aware and otherwise. A question that often crossed my mind as I worked with social workers is whether they understood the importance of self-awareness in social work. It’s vitally important for social workers to possess a high degree of self-awareness because it directly impacts their clients. I’ll share some real-world examples of social worker behaviors that are both self-aware and unaware. Here are some things social workers who lack self-awareness do:

  • They become enmeshed with clients to the point that they hamper the client’s progress.
  • They are unable to determine where they end and the client begins due to a lack of healthy boundaries.
  • They aren’t aware of how their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors affect them or their clients.
  • They function based on the need to dominate or control instead of facilitating.
  • Their self-esteem is derived from their clients liking or looking up to them.
  • They enable their clients’ less-than-positive behaviors.
  • They prolong the worker/client relationship way past its expiration date.
  • They make clients dependent on them.
  • They are in constant conflict with co-workers, subordinates, and colleagues.
  • They make things more difficult than they have to be.
  • They refuse to work with other professionals due to their own personal issues.
  • They work out their personal issues on their clients.
  • They lack empathy.
  • They like power a little too much.
  • They make things difficult for others, often acting as a gatekeeper.
  • They yearn for public recognition.
  • They set up fiefdoms and zealously guard their power.
  • They haven’t healed their own hurts before trying to heal others.
  • They’re personally unhappy.

Although these behaviors are common in many fields, they are especially counterproductive in client/worker relationships because the client’s wellness and success in life is at stake. On the other hand, social workers who possess self-awareness do things like:

  • Constantly work on healing their own hurts so they can be as healthy as possible for their clients.
  • Establish and adhere to healthy boundaries.
  • Do things that encourage collaboration with other professionals to help the client.
  • Possess empathy.
  • Are deeply aware of and are able to manage their own emotions, thoughts, and behaviors and understand how they affect their clients.
  • Are not interested in power, control, or having to appear special in some way.
  • They make things easy for people, going the extra mile to be helpful in a professional way.
  • They understand clients’ issues are not theirs.
  • They have healthy, professional relationships with clients.
  • They facilitate the process of clients’ finding their own answers.
  • They know how to help someone and get out of the way.
  • They’re balanced, happy, healthy people.
  • They enjoy healthy personal and professional relationships.
  • They understand, value, and possess self-awareness.

One of the main reasons I write this blog is that I’ve seen my fair share of people damaging other people and I told myself many years ago that I would do what I could to help people become more aware of what they were feeling, thinking, and doing so they could live positively and build a better world for everyone. Ultimately, the importance of self-awareness in social work is that it greatly increases the well-being and chances of success for the social worker, the client, and the world.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Hope

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Self-awareness gives you hope because you’re able to live proactively and consciously rather than enduring whatever comes your way. If you don’t know yourself very well you might see the world as a vast, unknown, scary entity that has total control over you, which might lead you to say things like:

  • Life is hard and it will always be.
  • I have no opportunities.
  • I can only rely on myself.
  • Things will never change.

Fortunately, you have a lot of control over your thoughts, feelings and behaviors and you can view even the most difficult situations from whatever perspective you choose. For example, you could convert the statements above to ones that indicate you understand how much power you have:

  • Life may be hard at times but I can decide to move forward positively.
  • I’m going to look for the opportunities in this situation.
  • I know I can rely on myself but I can also connect with others.
  • I can make change happen.

Each of these sets of examples represents a different worldview: One is based on the assumption that the world is harsh and negative and the other suggests that you can affect your environment even if things are difficult. When you understand yourself really well, you shift from living passively to choosing how you experience the world. What will you do to increase your hopefulness through self-awareness?

Cheers,

Guy

The Self-Awareness Guy