What Is Self-Awareness

What is self-awareness, at The Self-Awareness Guy.

Selective Self-Awareness

The path to self-awareness is populated by many individuals who claim to know and understand themselves but do things like:

  • Treat people poorly.
  • Work out their personal issues on others.
  • Don’t understand why they think, feel and behave the way they do.
  • Are mesmerized or infatuated by the concept of self-awareness but reluctant to take a deeper look at themselves.
  • Are stuck thinking and behaving the way they always have.
  • Live life unconsciously.
  • Are healthy in one part of their lives but profoundly damaged in others.
  • The various parts of their personality don’t interact well.
  • The have unhealed hurts and unresolved issues but conveniently ignore them.

When you possess genuine self-awareness you understand yourself on a deeper level and live a life of balance and compassion because you know your strengths and areas for improvement and are constantly working on being the most balanced and healthy you possible. You’re whole overall, not just in bits and pieces. What will you do to move past selective self-awareness?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness Leads to Emotional Intelligence

When you have a high level of self-awareness you naturally build up your emotional intelligence because you’re able to:

  • Feel your full range of emotions.
  • Think of emotions as a natural part of life.
  • Be in touch with the four basic emotions: happiness, sadness, anger, and fear.
  • Be comfortable when other people show their emotions.
  • Value and appreciate being touchy-feely.
  • Heal your own emotional wounds.
  • Be conscious of your emotions instead of letting them rule you unconsciously.
  • Use your emotions to move toward positive results.
  • Use your emotions to build a better world.

A huge part of self-awareness is being so comfortable with your emotions that you do positive things for yourself and others. So many problems occur because people don’t have any emotional intelligence, imagine what the world would be like if people knew what to do with their sadness, anger, and fear. Self-awareness leads to emotional intelligence because once you know yourself well, you naturally are comfortable with the amazing range of emotions that are part of you.

Cheers,

Guy

Why Are People Not Self-Aware?

Why are people not self-aware? Because they’ve never been taught how to be or had an example in their lives of how to do it. When you’ve never been exposed to something, your likelihood of knowing anything about it is nil. In my experience, the vast majority of people have only the most basic self-awareness; they understand that they’re alive and that they want certain things but not much beyond that. The key to developing deeper self-awareness is to do things like the following:

  • Discover who you really are deep inside and follow your true path in life.
  • Heal your hurts so they won’t affect how you treat yourself and others.
  • Learn how your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors affect you and others and do everything in your power to move them in a positive experience.
  • Be comfortable in your own skin.
  • Be truly happy because you’re living a kind, honest, deeply fulfilling life from your very core.
  • Treat people with empathy and compassion.
  • Make the world a better place.

Self-awareness doesn’t just happen, it requires moving past the basics of simply existing to living a life of consciousness and deliberateness. You’ll know you’re self-aware when you no longer just barely make it through each day but rather live with great joy, kindness, and fulfillment.

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Writing Your Story

When you have self-awareness you’re able to consciously write your story instead of being subject to the experiences in your past or the limitations you’ve placed on yourself. At any moment in your existence, you can change your narrative but it requires being wide awake and ready to welcome change and growth into your life. Here are some ideas to help you begin writing your story:

  • Get to know who you really are deep down inside.
  • Be willing to live your life as the real you.
  • Have the courage to let go of the voices in your head that hold you back.
  • Welcome the opportunity to heal your past wounds.
  • Be open to changing past behavior patterns that don’t work.
  • Be creative, there are no limits to the story you can create.
  • Don’t worry about outcomes or whether people will like your story.
  • Be authentic and honor who you really are.
  • Live a life of conscious happiness and fulfillment.

The more you know yourself, the better able you’ll be to live your life on purpose. You get to choose when you start and what you work on. What story will you write?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Taking Action

A major element of self-awareness is understanding what motivates you and actually doing things to create positive movement in your life. I’ve consulted for and trained a lot of people over the years and I’ve noticed that there is often a disconnect between what they say they want to do and what they actually do. People mean well but very often they don’t know how to follow through to reach their goals. The missing ingredient is taking action.

In order to do anything in life it’s important to actually do stuff. If all you do is think about things, you’ll live a great imaginary life but not get a lot done in the physical world. Achievements don’t just appear out of thin air, they require deliberate and conscious effort. You have to actually move from thinking about things in your head to doing things in the outside world.

People who value self-awareness tend to understand the process of working hard each day to get to know themselves better and continue moving in the direction of their dreams. What are your thoughts on taking action?

Cheers,

Guy

Self-Awareness and Making Things More Difficult for Others

One of the characteristics of someone who lacks self-awareness is making things more difficult for others. When you don’t know yourself well, you can’t pull back far enough to realize how your behavior affects other people so you might do things like:

  • Treat people poorly.
  • Behave without empathy.
  • Think the whole world should bend to your point of view.
  • Frequently create situations that damage other people.
  • Do things that make others work harder.
  • Create a pattern of negative interactions and relationships.
  • Complicate things to gain power or control.
  • Make unrealistic demands.
  • Act as a gatekeeper.
  • Fail to take responsibility for your actions.

The antidote to these behaviors is to get to know yourself on a deeper level and become genuinely comfortable with who you are. The happier you are, the less stress you’ll create for others because you won’t be working out your personal issues on them. What will you do to make things less difficult for others?

Cheers,

Guy

Why Self-Awareness Matters

You’ve probably met people, even very successful ones, who behave like they’re clueless or unbalanced in some part of their lives. Perhaps they don’t deal with others very positively, can’t get past some childhood trauma or have ideas about the world that aren’t grounded in reality. What they’re often missing is self-awareness, the ability to understand how their thoughts, emotions and behaviors affect them and others.

People avoid looking at themselves because they’re afraid of what they might find. It takes courage to admit that they’re not perfect, that they’ve made mistakes, that they’ve been wrong in the past or that there are areas that need improvement in their lives. Those who do decide to take a candid look at themselves soon discover that they can live deeply satisfying, meaningful, healthy and balanced lives.

Self-awareness matters because you’re worth it. You deserve to live a fully conscious life that reflects the real you rather than doing all the other garbage that makes you (and the people around you) unhappy. When you understand who you are and why you think and behave the way you do, you get to live an authentic life being yourself rather than trying to be someone you’re not or relying on outside sources for your happiness.

Increasing your self-awareness gives you the opportunity to live the life you were meant to live without restrictions. It’s a journey that begins with your willingness to look at yourself honestly and become the most healthy, balanced you possible. How will you start building your self-awareness?

Cheers,

Guy

The Self-Awareness Guy