Have you ever met someone who seems to have strong self-esteem but who does things to sabotage himself or herself? We all do things that keep us from succeeding and we do it at an unconscious level. Oftentimes, the messages we learned early in life keep holding us back and telling us that we can’t achieve what we want in the workplace. The good news is that you can change those inner messages by following some practical steps.
1. Identify the message. Ask yourself, “Where did this message begin.”
2. Ask yourself if the message is true. For example, do you really not deserve to succeed?
3. Think of the opposite of the message and do that instead. Make it a positive message that gets you where you want to go.
4. Every time a negative, limiting message comes into your head repeat these steps until it is gone.
It will take you some time to become an expert at changing your inner messages but you will do it if you stick with it over time. Plan on spending at least 30 days practicing the new behavior and then check in with yourself to see how you’re doing. You’ll be happy with the results because you’ll be moving in a positive direction. If you’re not, it’s likely you have another message to work on. What will you do to start building your self-esteem?