Have you ever met someone who seems to have strong self-esteem but depends on someone else for his or her happiness or behaves in ways that don’t lead in a positive direction? We all do things on an unconscious level that keep us from succeeding. The messages you learned early in life can hold you back and keep you from achieving what you want. The good news is that you can change those messages by following some basic steps.
- Identify the message. Ask yourself, “Where did this message begin.”
- Ask yourself if the message is true. For example, do you really not deserve to succeed?
- Think of the opposite of the message and do that instead. Make it a positive message that gets you where you want to go.
- Every time a negative, limiting message comes into your head do these steps until it is gone.
It will take you some time to get good at changing your messages but you will do it if you stick with it over time. Plan on spending at least 30 days practicing the new behavior and then check in with yourself to see how you’re doing. You may be very happy with the results. If you’re not, it looks like you have another message to work on.