The Self-Awareness Guy

Self-Awareness and Personal Development

Stop Choosing the Safe Path in Life

Stop Choosing the Safe Path in Life

There are people who spend their entire lives choosing the safe path, which means that they do what they've always done, how they've always done it. They value feeling safe and secure over all else, including self-awareness, no matter what the consequences. In the process, they lose their true selves and live middle-of-the-road, ordinary, as-uneventful-as-possible existences.

I've always wondered why people live like this, and the answer that often arises is fear. When people are scared of stepping outside their comfort zones or of being their real selves, they tend to do everything they can to remain in their cocoon. They never fly because they're too busy worrying about everything that might possibly go wrong or be slightly different.

One of the reasons I love coaching and training people who value self-awareness is that they live more courageously; striving to understand who they are and where they want to go. It's not that they live dangerously, just that they're willing to test their own thought processes and face their fears.

What will you do to avoid choosing the safe path in life?

Cheers,

Guy



5 Steps to Great Dating

5 Steps to Great Dating

Great dating is about knowing who you are and how to be treated well. We often go for exciting people rather than those who will treat us well and will become more exciting over time. Think about the following next time you are trying to improve your dating experiences:

1. Who am I as a person?
2. What do I want out of dating?
3. Do the people I date build me up as a person and make me feel great about myself?
4. Do I date because I’m healthy and happy or do I date to fulfill some other need?
5. Am I doing things to date people who share my interests and dreams?

Dating doesn’t have to be serious and boring, it can be very exciting when you find people who really share your interests and who treat you well. Always keep in mind that you deserve to date people who make you feel great and let you be who you are.

Cheers,

Guy



11 Ways to Improve Your Life Right Now

11 Ways to Improve Your Life Right Now

There's a big difference between letting life happen to you and consciously choosing what you think and do. You can live a happy, meaningful, and fulfilling life at any time by deciding that you're going to do it. If you're not quite sure how to begin, here are ten ways to improve your life starting right now:

  1. Let go of the need to control events and other people.
  2. Think and behave positively.
  3. Love yourself and others unconditionally.
  4. Heal your hurts, especially the ones you don't want to look at.
  5. Help others without expecting anything in return.
  6. Discover what you really want to do in life and take daily small steps to make it happen.
  7. Experience all your feelings and learn how to guide them in a positive direction.
  8. Spend time doing the things that matter in life; like working on your dreams or hugging your significant other.
  9. Surround yourself with people who appreciate the real you.
  10. Be open to increasing your self-awareness throughout your life.
  11. Be yourself.

Improving your life requires commitment and effort. Try these ideas and, over time, you'll improve your quality of life because you'll be thinking and behaving in ways that lead to deeper happiness. You don't have to everything at once, start with one item and then move on to the next. What will you do right now to improve your life?

Cheers,

Guy



Fighting with Family

Fighting with Family

Conflict can be especially painful when it involves family. My clients often ask me what to do about a family member who they can’t get along with. It can be tricky to deal with family because there are often rules we are expected to follow in our families.

We feel a sense of duty toward family but that doesn’t give people some free pass to hurt each other. Ideally we treat everyone with the same dignity and respect whether they are family or not.

Here’s a couple of things to think about:

1. Respect your needs and beliefs first.
2. Inform your family about what you want. Set limits and boundaries.
3. Inform your family you are available to work things out.
4. Work with them to resolve the conflict.
5. Set the example for how you want to be treated.
6. Take some time away if things get heated.
7. Expect resistance.

You are your own unique person regardless of what your family says. It’s ultimately healthiest to pay attention to the things that bring you joy and happiness than to try to mold yourself into someone else’s vision. Trust yourself and teach your family who you are. Do it with kindness and patience and eventually they will understand who you are.

Cheers,

Guy

Why Is Self-Awareness Important?

Why Is Self-Awareness Important?

Why is self-awareness important? Here are some lovely reasons:

  • You get to live life as yourself.
  • You can pursue your dreams.
  • You honor yourself every day.
  • You look within for answers.
  • You live a more fulfilling life.
  • You are in touch with your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors.
  • You understand why you do stuff.
  • You enjoy positive relationships.
  • You're able to move in a positive direction.
  • You live consciously instead of reacting to everything that comes your way.
  • You understand your strengths and areas for improvement.
  • You're constantly growing.
  • You treat yourself and others well.
  • You genuinely like yourself.

Self-awareness is of vital importance because it's like the difference between being able to breathe or not. When you possess self-awareness you can enjoy who you are and live a deeply rewarding life. What would you add to this list?

Cheers,

Guy