The Self-Awareness Guy

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How to Be Happy? Self-Awareness

How to Be Happy? Self-Awareness


My clients frequently ask me how to be happy. Over the years I've noticed that a common characteristic of people who are happy is having a strong awareness of who we are and where we are going. Self-awareness is a deep understanding of who we are. It literally impacts how we treat ourselves and others and what kind of life we live. Let me give you a real world example to illustrate how important it is to get to know yourself.

Person A says he is a happy go lucky person that always is having a great time. He has a lot of friends and says he's confident and an optimist. He lives a life that looks great to everyone on the outside but, when he has to think about it, Person A is deeply unhappy. He has unresolved issues in his life that are so difficult that he refuses to look at them. So person A appears happy on the outside but inside he is constantly struggling to ignore and cast aside the demons he carries. This type of person is not living a life of self-awareness because he won't even begin the process of understanding who he is in order to move forward. He chooses instead to live a live of superficial happiness based on appearances.

Person B, on the other hand, also has issues that hurt him deeply and made him unhappy. He also appears happy to the outside world but his happiness comes from a very different place. Person B decided years ago to look at the things that brought him pain. He worked very hard to acknowledge his past and create a plan to move beyond the hurt. When person B is alone he feels genuinely happy because he has actually moved past the challenges in his past. This type of happiness is far more genuine because the person has literally worked through the things that made them unhappy. His happiness is real because it's based on his deep self-awareness based on facing his hurts.

Genuine happiness comes from deep inside us. It is a level of existence that we achieve only when we work through the challenges from our past. I'm not suggesting that we live in the past but rather that we acknowledge the things that hurt us earlier in life and then develop a plan to move forward. People get caught up in the idea that they have to live in pain if they look at the difficult issues in their life when it really provides an opportunity to go beyond those issues and grow in positive ways. Imagine your life without those nagging things that hold you back. Think about how successful you would be if you didn't have those voices trying to keep you from succeeding.

Everyone deserves to live a happy life, one where we're genuinely fulfilled and content. Those who are truly happy have left the burdens of the past behind. Think about it as the difference between living your life with the burden of carrying a giant monkey on your back and never getting rid of it versus letting it go and living a much lighter and energized existence. You will truly enjoy living from a place of authentic happiness free from the worries of the past. It is achievable for everyone but it takes conscious effort and work. Once you do the work the rewards are amazing.

Self-awareness is not about being selfish or self-indulgent, it's about understanding who you are and constantly working on becoming the best person you can be. You get to be the best you possible and you get to live a life of fulfillment rather than just getting by. Those who choose to be aware of whom they really are enjoy the benefits of living a genuinely happy life.

Cheers,

Guy

5 Ways to Be Happy at Work

5 Ways to Be Happy at Work

When I train leaders the concept of being happy at work often comes up.  People want to be happy and enjoy their work lives on a deeper level because it makes them feel more well-rounded and satisfied.  The challenge is to find a way to take the goal of being happy and actually do things to achieve it.  The concept of happiness is different for each person but there are some basic things you can do to create a life that is fulfilling and rewarding.

  1. Be yourself.  Look deep inside yourself and make sure you’re always behaving in ways that are consistent with what you feel and believe at your core.
  2. Do what you love.  Identify what it is that you love doing more than anything in life and do it at work and everywhere.
  3. Connect with supportive people.  Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are and appreciate your amazing talents and gifts.
  4. Love your work and spread that feeling.  When you do what you really love doing it becomes fun instead of work and it helps you spread the same energy to others.
  5. Take care of yourself.  Remember to celebrate and praise yourself often and focus on your achievements.

Try these five ideas and observe how you feel about yourself along the way.  The key to being happy at work is often closer than you think and you can find it by simply remembering to honor who you are.

Cheers,
Guy